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Listening Moments

Listening Moments

Truth-telling time. The most common mistake parents make when interacting with their child is failing to recognize when they should be listening, and they miss the opportunity. I call these opportunities listening moments. Here are some of the most common parent-child...

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The Many ‘Listening Moments’

The Many ‘Listening Moments’

In Chapter 4 of my book, Connect with Your Kid: Mastering the Top 10 Parent-Child Communication Skills, I place special emphasis on the skill, "Listening to Understand." The main reasons is that a parent's ability to listen well is crucial in so many situations. These...

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Thank you – Listening to Understand

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The Listening Moment & The Listening Mindset

The Listening Moment & The Listening Mindset

Listening is the most powerful skill a parent can have. It has the potential to "change the game" with regard to your relationship with your child. In my writing about this skill, I refer to it as "listening to understand," a phrase I borrowed from Stephen Covey's...

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Feel the Emotion, Shift the Thought

Feel the Emotion, Shift the Thought

I was in a hurry to get home, but so were many other people in rush hour traffic. I had to wait in line to turn right and then immediately I had to wait in a long line at a stoplight. When the light turned green, the car in front of me didn't move. The driver was...

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My New Definition for the Term “Lean In”

My New Definition for the Term “Lean In”

Have you ever heard somebody use the term "lean in"? It quickly became common as a business motto in 2013, taken from the title of the book. Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead, by Sheryl Sandberg, the Chief Operating Officer of Facebook, and Nell Scovell, a...

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The Secret to Mastering a Parent-Child Communication Skill

The Secret to Mastering a Parent-Child Communication Skill

I recently talked with a mom who was discouraged because her attempts to try some new listening techniques hadn't worked for her. She said they felt strange and she often forgot to use them. So she gave up trying. This is not an uncommon story. And there are reasons...

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Saying Nothing: A Powerful, Underappreciated Skill

Saying Nothing: A Powerful, Underappreciated Skill

Both my sons are in their 50s, still pursuing highly successful careers in IT. But I'm still trying to communicate with them effectively, being aware of moments when a particular skill will work best for me -- with my sons, my wife, my business partners, and friends....

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How to Be Sure YOU’VE Been Heard and Understood

How to Be Sure YOU’VE Been Heard and Understood

In Chapter 4 of Connect with Your Kid, I explain how to summarize what you think you're hearing, so your child can confirm whether you really understand what they're trying to express. The skill of listening to understand is powerful, and the impacts are huge. Kids...

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