Some pretty awful things can happen during adolescence. One of these tragedies is an unwanted pregnancy. I believe that parents need to "get real" about the risk that their child could get involved in an unwanted pregnancy. Think about it: At puberty, kids begin...
Truth-telling time. The most common mistake parents make when interacting with their child is failing to recognize when they should be listening, and they miss the opportunity. I call these opportunities listening moments. Here are some of the most common parent-child...
Almost everything you do as a parent involves communicating with your child. If you do it poorly, very likely you'll get a result you don't like. If you do it with skill, the results will amaze you. I wholeheartedly believe this. Every parent can benefit greatly by...
A hard truth: One of the toughest things about being a parent is the mistakes we make. When I was a parent, I got lucky. I followed my best instincts and made some good things happen. But nobody's perfect, as they say, and I also lost my temper quite a few times. I...
Knowledge doesn't appear out of thin air. Thanks to my experience as a dad, my 30-year passion for learning about the brain and interpersonal communication, and the work of many, many experts, I have learned a great deal about parenting; experience-based,...
As I write this, Vladimir Putin has decided that he wants Ukraine to become a part of Russia. The people of Ukraine don't want this; they want to remain their own nation, separate from Russia. But rather than enter into peaceful relations with Ukraine, Putin has...
In Chapter 4 of my book, Connect with Your Kid: Mastering the Top 10 Parent-Child Communication Skills, I place special emphasis on the skill, "Listening to Understand." The main reasons is that a parent's ability to listen well is crucial in so many situations. These...
So many of the emotional flare-ups and conflicts that arise between parent and child are triggered by the failure to communicate effectively. Instead, we react emotionally, with frustration or anger. It's only natural, but it alienates your child. It's an old story....
I often reflect on what my life was like as a kid. My early childhood happened in the 50's and my adolescence happened in the 60's. It was, I think, a typical lower-middle class upbringing. I had five brothers and two sisters and a father and mother who loved me and...
While each of the ten high-impact parent-child communication skills described in Connect with Your Kid are amazingly effective, their power magnifies greatly when used in combination. Without question, my favorite one-two combo is open-ended questions to encourage...