Both my sons are in their 50s, still pursuing highly successful careers in IT.
But I’m still trying to communicate effectively, being aware of moments when a particular skill will work best for me–with my wife, my business partners, family, and friends.
Yesterday, I was very conscious of how I responded, and I was reminded of something important. Often, the best response is to not respond–to say nothing. I felt the urge to give advice, to debate, to give feedback; but instead, I said nothing.
It worked like a charm; it was the most effective thing I could have done.
The lesson: saying nothing is a powerful, underappreciated skill.
Parents, in the heat of the moment, consider biting your tongue. Choose your battles. Sometimes refusing to engage is the smartest thing you can do.